If there was ever someone I connected and empathize with, it is Alanis Morissette.
She has this air about her, and this connectedness that I strive for. Having also experienced love addiction myself, I know that there is so much truth when she talks about being an observer. We all need to develop our innate human capacity to see ourselves and the world around us with non-judgmental attachments. It gives you peace and solace and the ability to make conscious choices. It is also one of the hardest things that one can harness and maintain at all times.
If you go to 25:36, what she describes here about who she is in a relationship actually brought me to tears. To think that we share so many of the same values has me turning to her for advice, whether it be in her music, or reading something she’s written, or in this case watching her in an interview. Please watch this video, it is truly rewarding. At least it is for me.
“What you want is not a marriage, but a spiritual partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth.”
I am always extremely hungry for the healing. I really love when she talks about her relationships in this interview. I have always been a believer in finding the person that sees the value in sticking it out in a relationship like I do. The song lyric that comes to mind regarding what she is talking about here comes from “Thank U” where Alanis sings, “How about not equating death with stopping.” Because when people are re-traumitizing themselves by staying in the “fighting”, many people will end a relationship there whereas I see that as a breakthrough, and I, like Alanis am always devastated when that value is not reciprocated.
As humans we yearn for a deep connection and the best person to look to as an exemplary of that is the beautiful and humbled Alanis Morissette. She is my true hero and deity.
“Love is most felt when it is a verb and an action.”
So now as I turn 35 this coming Tuesday the 23rd, I find myself wanting to get closer to achieving that observer self, and I am humbled when things like this interview come into my life at just the right moment to inspire and motivate.
Happy Birthday to me and Thank U Alanis.